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Avoid the stressful Budget Busters

In a split-second you went from girlfriend to wedding planner with the resounding yes! Now what?? Top 5 biggest mistakes for which to be on guard.

1. Breaking The Budget

It’s easy to completely blow your budget on a lot of small details and forget about some of the larger items you’ll need. One of the biggest pre-wedding mistakes you can make is getting stars in your eyes over a lot of small, expensive touches that aren’t necessary and only serve to eat into your budget. Before you even consider the first invitation, make a budget and don’t stray from it.

2. Mangling The Marriage License

Planning location vs. wedding location? One of the biggest pre-wedding mistakes is being unaware of the laws governing marriage licenses in your state. These laws are different from one state to the next, with some states allowing the marriage license to be procured the day of the wedding and others requiring waiting periods of varying lengths. It’s important to know the requirements for your state so that you’re sure to be legal when you walk down the aisle.

3. Wedding Dress Delay

One of the most stressful pre-wedding mistakes for brides is mistakenly ordering the dress too close to the wedding day. If you’re having a couture wedding dress, make sure you know how long the designer needs to complete your dream dress and get your order placed as early as possible. Its best to place your wedding gown order at least six months prior to your wedding day. Even if you’re buying off the rack, you will probably have to have your dress altered to fit you correctly. Make sure there’s enough time for alterations to be completed and any problems to be fixed before your wedding day.

4. In-House In-Laws

Unless you want all of your in-laws crowded into your guest room and sleeping on your couch the night before the wedding, make sure you’ve booked hotel rooms for everyone well before they’ll be needed. This ensures that you’ll have places for everyone to stay, especially in areas where hotel availability might be an issue.  Don’t let one of your pre-wedding mistakes result in too few rooms for too many guests.

5. Underestimating Attendance

Don’t invite too many people to your wedding and assume only some will show up. On average, 80% of those invited to weddings end up attending, meaning that you need to have a bit of a buffer and ensure your venue is large enough to accommodate everyone you invite. As surely as you assume that 20% of your guest list won’t attend, your turnout will end up being 90% or more. Making pre-wedding mistakes in estimating the number of guests can result in would-be attendees having to be refused entrance.

Too Blessed to Be Stressed!

It’s a universal truth – wedding planning is stressful. With an endless list of decisions to be made, from the décor to the dress to the catering and everything in between, the stress can pile on at lightning-fast speeds. One minute, you’re trying to choose between roses and ranunculus, and before you know it, you’ve fallen down the Pinterest hole, scrolling between 19 slightly different shades of pink petals while stress eating wedding cake samples.

With that being said, there are more than a few items on your wedding checklist that guests pay far less attention to than you think. Instead of driving yourself crazy over the teeniest details, save yourself the headache (and probably a few bucks, too) by knowing what really matters to your guests, and more importantly, what doesn’t.

LET’S START WITH THE DRESS – It’s not what you wear but how you wear it, so as long as you’re comfortable and feel like your best, most beautiful self, well, that’s sounds just PERFECT. When the  bride is rocking a beautifully tailored gown that makes her look and feel like the goddess she is its gonna be a great night. (same goes for the wedding party as well)

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NERVOUS ABOUT YOUR FIRST DANCE- Tackle a few moves that you feel 100% comfortable performing, no matter how simple, and watch the pressure just melt away. Great for you, great for your guests and great for your wedding photos… Everyone wins!


So what do guests care most about?

1) The Ceremony:

It goes without saying that guests will be overjoyed to watch the happy couple proclaim their love and be joined in wedded bliss – I mean, it’s kind of the whole point – but the crowd may start to get restless during a long, drawn-out ceremony. One of the most common guest complaints is having to sit through a too-long production, so keep it short and sweet (roughly 30 minutes or less) for a happy clan.8

2) The Food:

Enjoying a decadent meal with loved ones is a treat for guests, so make sure your food choices are crowd pleasers. A fantastic meal will keep those good vibes going, but a bad one could really bring down the mood. In addition, be sure to offer options for vegetarians or those with common allergies, like gluten and nuts.BridalifeStyle_Sping-Summer-2015-39

3) The Drinks:

Weddings and booze go together like peanut butter and jelly. Bottom line: Keep the drinks flowing, because there’s nothing that wedding guests hate more than the liquor well running dry. Forgoing the fully stocked bar is fine; an edited menu of Champagne, wine, beer and one or two specialty cocktails will keep guests in high spirits all night long.wine rack ice sculpture

4) The Music:

The tunes will be going strong from the first arrivals through the last dance, so make sure your music list is on point, especially once guests start hitting the dance floor. Skip the chicken dance and opt for fun, contemporary tunes that everyone is sure to know and love to unite the crowd and get people moving.amytimblog-63

5) The Venue:

Common sense is the key here. Skip the outdoor venue during the hottest, most humid days of summer, and likewise, choose an indoor spot during the fall and winter months when temps may be chilly. Outside of the climate, a unique venue is something they’ll also care about, particularly if the journey to your wedding is a trek for some of your far-flung guests. A seriously cool spot is much more of a draw than, say, Hotel Ballroom #3, don’t you think?

Hopefully this guide to what guests truly care about can seriously help refocus your energy during the planning process. When in doubt, take a breath, heed our advice, and above all else, remain calm!


Festive Mexican Inspiration Shoot

We had so much fun collaborating this vision with so many great vendors. Despite the Oklahoma wind on a the terrace, it was a lovely day and certainly put us all in a “fiesta” kind of mood. Thank you Paper8  for collaborating on this Festive Mexican inspiration and for the beautiful stationary items.  Flower Girls was spot on with the bouquet & centerpieces right down to the containers and ribbons. We crave the deep textures and simplicity of all the succulents and wildflowers.

We combined the traditional wedding cake with a thoughtful selection on Mexican bakery items. Don’t you just love the tissue tassel garlands? They were simply perfect for the final touch!

The Talented Team…..
Photography Amanda Grace Photography
Venue Glenpool Conference Center
Rentals Party Perfect
Bridal Gown Red Hot Design
Hair & Makeup Siren Styling
Flowers Flower Girls
Stationary Paper 8
Cake- Zoe’s Cakes Unlimited
Stylist Tulsa Weddings & Design

Audrey + Chris Dresser Mansion

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Amanda + Trey Jazz Hall of Fame

Every detail surrounding this wedding was first class. Dripping chandelier centerpieces filled with a room drenched in a deep hue of purple. Love, love, love these photos. Such a fun idea to serve your guests family style at their tables instead of hassling with the long buffet lines.
Photos courtesy of Birdsong Photography


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