We know that curbing family guest lists can be tricky. “Sure, Mom may want her coworker who hears so many stories about you to see you tie the knot, but if you don’t know that woman, is it realistic?” Considering your budget and venue space you can only invite the people nearest and dearest to you. So who makes the list??

Keep in mind if any parent(s)are financially supporting this wedding, be considerate of their guest list requests. Regardless of how they fit into the big family picture, seeing someone for big life events such as holidays and birthdays means they should be included in your wedding. End of story.

But what about every other person on the list? Here’s a few things to consider before sending a Save – the – Date.

1. If you haven’t laid eyes on a person in 12-18 months — or at least had a nice, long phone conversation if they live far away then you probably shouldn’t invite them.

2. If you were at their wedding years ago but have since lost contact, you may not need to invite them. There is no need to reciprocate if you’re no longer close. Only invite them if you really want the person back in your life.

3. My favorite “rule” is “party of 4 rule”. If you could invite the couple to your home for an evening of wine and dine and have a lovely evening full of laughter and conversation then they are added to the list. If you are unsure an feel that you would struggle through dinner and skip straight to dessert, then they are more of an acquaintance than actual friend. This especially comes in handy when considering your co workers and boss.
4. Dealing with the “plus one” – if you have met their finance or long time life partner then you should invite them. If not, don’t be shy about letting them know on your wedding website “In order to keep our guest list on track we are only able to accommodate those guests formally invited on your wedding invitation. Please feel free to e-mail us with any questions!” 
5. Is your Wedding Adults only? Do not feel bad about this decision. However, sharing that decision is not always easy. “We have X seats reserved for you!”
A great way to let people know exactly how many people are invited, this phrase becomes a part of your response card wording. It’s perfect for weddings where you are allowing some children but not all children.